On Sudden Loss, The Power of Love, and Relationships
On this episode, I talk with Sheleana Aiyana the founder of Rising Woman. This episode, and the stories that Sheleana has to share within it, are incredibly powerful. As you will hear, Sheleana experienced and incredibly traumatic childhood. One that has shaped her into the powerful woman she is today. Her story is one of loss, self—acceptance, and transformation. All of which are woven into the work she does through Rising Woman along with her co-founder Heather Pennell.
There is a lot to be gained from the wisdom Sheleana has to share with the world. I hope this episode brings you some pieces that resonate and help you along your journey of acceptance and transformation. I know Sheleana hopes for the same.
On why we’re recording for the second time and the wild week Sheleana had
The 12th house placement in Sheleana’s Vedic Astrological chart that represents sudden loss to make room for something really good
On slowing down and why Sheleana misses the 90’s
The pressure on millennials to constantly perform and the roll technology plays in that
How there is a shadow to everything
Diving into the Sheleana’s childhood and origin story
Growing up in Abbotsford, the murder capital of Canada
Sheleana’s birth story
On being raised by a Mother who struggled with alcoholism due to past traumas
How it’s important to note there were also lovely and joyful times with her Mother
On being dropped off with strangers (foster home) and being sexually abused
Not seeing or hearing from her Mother sometimes 6 months at a time
Becoming a ward of the government
Running with street kids at the age of 12 - doing drugs, drinking, stealing cars etc.
On looking for community and belonging
Being seen as a bad kid and the early start on an awakening that it gave Sheleana
On the topic of “woo woo” beliefs and the fine line we both walk
The belief that our soul’s choose to go through the human experiences we do
On seeing her life experiences as a blessing
Sheleana’s natural talents/interests being reading and writing as a child
The vow of silence Sheleana took for 3 months at the age of 7 or 8 and the 10 journals she filled
The angels that had her back along her journey and the amount of love that always surrounded her and why she would often push it away
The key role knowing her Mom loved her unconditionally played in her moving forward from her experiences as a child in a positive and empowered way
The importance of knowing we are loved unconditionally
On what it was like to move out on her own at 16 and homeschooling herself
The man she met at 19 and the intuitive hit she got around knowing he would be abusive
Getting addicted to painkillers as a result of being beaten up and why she isolated herself
The moment she looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize herself, and the message that came through around speaking on stage for women around domestic violence
How she got out of the abusive relationship via an investment opportunity which ultimately ended up in being kidnapped and sexually abused
How she escaped the dangerous situation in such a brave and gutsy way
When things really shifted - the moment of awakening
Moving in with 3 other women, doing personal-growth work, and cutting out unhealthy relationships
The rainbow lens we often put over everything when we first “wake-up”
The man she met that would become her husband and eventually lead to divorce and what she lost in the process
What she learned from the relationship and how they were bonded by trauma
How her abandonment wound got ripped open as he left and the realization that followed
The most profound healing work she began to do and how she finally got to that place
On her fiance Ben, being engaged, planning a wedding, and the difference between now and the previous wedding
The year-long engagement and the ride it has taken Sheleana on in bringing up old wounds
Being accepted into Ben’s family
How she met Ben and the different way she approached their relationship
The importance of integrating someone you’re dating with your friends and family
On when the right time is to welcome a new relationship into your life
On carrying our partners trauma
The letter Sheleana wrote to Ben at the beginning of their relationship
How Ben showed up all the way in response
The importance of releasing the need to be perfect
How relationships are the fast track to spiritual growth
On the fear of loosing yourself in relationship
An important lesson Sheleana has learned in the past couple years
What is your favorite morning beverage?
What is your favorite sound? Smell? Place?
What is your favourite childhood memory?
What is your love language?
What is a book or books you’ve read that you think are worth sharing?
What advice would you give your 20-year-old self?
What is your Rebel Cause?
LINKS & MENTIONS
Concious Relationship Training - Course by P.T. Mistleberger
Jordan Gray - Sex and Relationship Consulting
Getting the Love You Want - Book by Harville Hendricks
Heal Your Relationships Course - By Rising Woman
Making Marriage Simple - Book by Harville Hendricks
Intro/Transition: Custom Track by Extra Deluxe
Outro: Harmony by Nomyn